Okuthunyelwe kwanamuhla kudingida kafushane "i-anorexia yocansi," ngokusho kukaDkt. Douglas Weiss encwadini yakhe yango-1998 i-Sexual Anorexia, ngokuvamile ibhekisela "ekugcineni okusebenzayo, okuphoqelekile kokuthintana komuntu ngokomzwelo, ngokomoya, kanye nobulili. umbhangqwana oyinhloko". . Iqembu lezinyathelo ezingu-12 I-Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous inikeza le ncazelo nesifaniso:
“Njengokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla, i-anorexia ichazwa njengokugwema ukudla okuyimpoqo. Emkhakheni wocansi nothando, i-anorexia inencazelo efanayo: i-anorexia ukugwema okuphoqelekile kokupha noma ukuthola ukudla komphakathi, ngokocansi noma ngokomzwelo.
I-athikili kaDkt. Randy Hardman kanye noDkt. David Gardner kumagazini we-1986 we-Journal of Sex Education and Therapy yaqhathanisa i-anorexia nervosa kanye ne-anorexia yocansi. Bagqamisa izici ezine ezibaluleke kakhulu ukufana kwalezi ziphazamiso zokuziphilisa kuwo womabili amazinga e-intrapsychic kanye ne-interpersonal. Lokhu kwaku (i) ukulawula (okungukuthi, ukulawula okusobala komuntu siqu namandla ayimfihlo obudlelwano), (ii) ukwesaba (okungukuthi, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawula nokwesaba ubulili bomuntu siqu), (iii) intukuthelo (okungukuthi, , izinkulumo ezingenzi lutho nezisebenzayo zentukuthelo ezisekelwe ekwehliseni inani) kanye (iv) nokulungisiswa (okungukuthi uhlelo olunemininingwane yokuphika, ukukhohlisa nokungaqondi kahle).
Kanye noDkt. Weiss, imibhalo eminingi ebalulekile ngesihloko ibhalwe nguDkt. Patrick Carnes (umbhali wendatshana nezincwadi eziningi ezikhuluma ngokuluthwa ucansi). UDkt. Carnes uchaza i-anorexia yobulili ngokuthi: “Isimo sokuthatheka lapho umsebenzi ongokomzimba, ongokwengqondo nongokomzwelo wokugwema ubulili ubusa ukuphila kwethu. Njengendlala yokudla, ukuncishwa ubulili kungenza umuntu azizwe enamandla futhi evikelekile ekulimaleni. Esihlokweni sango-1998 esanyatheliswa ephephabhukwini elithi Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, uphawula nokuthi: “Igama elithi 'i-anorexia yobulili' liye lasetshenziswa ekuchazeni ukuphazamiseka kobulili. [ku-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders], isimo lapho isiguli sizwa khona inzondo ejulile nokwethuka ngayo yonke into ephathelene nocansi kuye nakwabanye. Ngokwe-athikili ye-Wikipedia mayelana ne-anorexia yocansi, igama elithi "i-anorexia yocansi" selineminyaka engaphezu kwengu-35, futhi ukusetshenziswa kokuqala kwaleli gama ngokuvamile kuthiwa ku-Nathan Hare, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esasungula leli gama ku-thesis yakhe yobudokotela yango-1975. ( Nokho, angikwazanga ukukuthola lokhu, futhi akukho nesisodwa izihloko zezemfundo engizifundile mayelana ne-anorexia yobulili ezikhuluma ngoHare.)
UDkt. Carnes uthi ukhombe izici ezintathu eziyimbangela ekwakhekeni kwe-anorexia yocansi. Lokhu (i) umlando ongaba khona wokuxhashazwa okulimaza kakhulu ngokocansi noma ukwenqatshwa ngokocansi, (ii) umlando womndeni wemicabango noma ukuziphatha okweqisayo (okuvame ukucindezelwa kakhulu / okungokwenkolo noma okuphambene nalokho kokuyekelela 'noma yini ivunyelwe'), kanye ( iii ) amathonya amasiko, ezenhlalo noma ezenkolo abuka ucansi kabi futhi asekela ukucindezelwa ngokocansi nokucindezelwa. UDkt. Weiss uyanezela ukuthi kunemibandela emithathu ebalulekile ekwakhekeni kwe-anorexia: (i) ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi, (ii) ukuphazamiseka kokunamathela nomzali wobulili obuhlukile, kanye (iii) nokuba umlutha wocansi.
Encwadini yakhe yango-1997 ethi Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred, uDkt. Carnes ubheka iqembu lezimpawu ze-anorexic ngokocansi njengeligcwele ucansi futhi lihlanganisa: (i) ukwesaba injabulo yobulili, (ii) ukwesaba okukhwantabalisayo nokuphikelela ekuhlanganyeleni ubulili. . , (iii) ukuthatheka kanye nokuqapha ngokweqile ezindabeni zocansi, (iv) ukugwema noma yini ehlobene nocansi, (v) ukukhathazeka ngokuthi abanye abantu ngokocansi, (vi) ukuhlanekezelwa kokubukeka komzimba, (vii) ukunengwa okukhulu ngenxa yokusebenza komzimba, (viii) ) ukungabaza ngokweqile mayelana nokufaneleka kwezocansi, (ix) izimo zengqondo eziqinile nezigxekayo mayelana nokuziphatha kocansi, (x) ukwesaba nokukhathazeka ngokweqile ngezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, (xi) ukukhathazeka ngokweqile noma ukukhathazeka ngezinhloso zocansi zabanye, (xii) amahloni nokuzi- inzondo mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kocansi, (xiii) ukucindezeleka mayelana nokufaneleka kocansi nokusebenza, (xiv) ukugwema ukusondelana ngenxa yokwesaba ucansi, kanye (xv) nokuziphatha okuzilimazayo ukukhawulela, ukumisa noma ukugwema ubudlelwano bocansi.
I-athikili yango-1998 eyashicilelwa kujenali ethi Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity kaDkt. Carnes ingenye yezimbalwa emibhalweni ehlanganisa idatha yobufakazi. Idatha yaqoqwa ezigulini eziyi-144 emtholampilo wazo wokwelashwa ezitholwe zine-anorexia yocansi. Kulaba, amaphesenti angu-41 kwakungamadoda kanti amaphesenti angu-59 kwakungabesifazane, abaneminyaka engu-19 kuya kwengama-58 (bonke baseCaucasia). Iziphetho eziyinhloko zaziwukuthi:
• Ama-67% abike umlando wokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
• Ama-41% abike umlando wodlame olungokomzimba
• Amaphesenti angu-86 abike umlando wokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
• Ama-65% athi amalungu omndeni asondelene nawo aluhlobo oluthile lwezidakamizwa.
• Amaphesenti angu-40 athi anomlutha emikhayeni yawo eseduze.
• Abangu-60% bachaze umndeni wabo ngokuthi "uqinile"
• Abangu-67% bachaze umndeni wabo ngokuthi "unqanyuliwe"
UCarnes uphinde wabika ukuthi ngaphezu kwezingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zabantu abane-anorexic ngokocansi bathi banezinye izinkinga eziphoqelelayo kanye / noma eziluthayo, njengokudakwa ngokweqile (33%), ukuluthwa izidakamizwa (25%), ukudla okuphoqelekile (25%), ukusetshenziswa kabi kwe-caffeine ( 26%), ukuncika kwe-nicotine (23%), ukusetshenziswa kwemali okuphoqelekile (22%) kanye / noma i-bulimia / i-anorexia ngokudla (19%).
Okuthakazelisa kakhulu ukuthi uCarnes uqhathanise iqembu lakhe le-anorexics yocansi neqembu lemilutha yocansi (futhi esikhungweni sakhe sokwelashwa). UCarnes waphetha ngokuthi:
“Uma uqhathanisa le phrofayili nedatha evela emilutha yocansi ababeyingxenye yeqembu elifanayo leziguli, kungasungulwa umehluko omkhulu. Idatha yemilutha yocansi kanye ne-anorexics yocansi ibifana kakhulu ngokuya ngesistimu yomndeni, umlando wokuhlukumeza, namaphethini ahlobene wokulutheka, ukuphoqelelwa, nokuncishwa. Ngisho nenqubo yokuluthwa ucansi kanye ne-anorexia yocansi inokufana okubalulekile mayelana nokungabi namandla, ukuthatheka, imiphumela kanye nokucindezeleka... Ukuqhathanisa okunjalo kuvame ukufakazela isiphakamiso sokuthi ukuphazamiseka kocansi okwedlulele kubangelwa futhi kungukuhlukahluka kwezici eziningi ezifanayo. isifo. Okubaluleke ngokufanayo ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ukuziphatha okwedlulele ezinkingeni ezihlukahlukene (ukudla, amakhemikhali, ezocansi, ezezimali), noma ngabe kudlulele noma kuyimfihlo, kungase kube izingxenye ezishintshayo ezigulini eziningi ezimelela amaphethini ajulile okucindezeleka.
Okokugcina, uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi une-anorexic yocansi yini, ungathatha lesi sivivinyo esilula engisithole kusayithi le-Freedom In Grace (futhi okubonakala kusekelwe emhlabeni we-Weiss ne-Carnes). Uma uvumelana okungenani nezitatimende ezinhlanu kweziyisishiyagalolunye ezilandelayo, “wena noma umlingani wakho njengamanje nine-anorexia yobulili.”
• Yenqaba uthando kumlingani
• Yenqaba ukunconywa noma ukubonga okuvela kumlingani.
• Lawula ngokuthula noma ngentukuthelo
• Ukugxeka okuqhubekayo noma okungenasisekelo okudala ukuzihlukanisa
• Yenqaba ukuya ocansini nophathina wakho
• Ukungabaza noma ukungakwazi ukuxoxa ngemizwa nophathina wakho
• Yiba matasa kangangokuthi ungabi naso isikhathi sobudlelwano sabashadile.
• Yenza izinkinga noma izinkinga zithinte umbhangqwana esikhundleni sokuziphendulela ngezinkinga zabo.
• Lawula noma ululaze umlingani onezinkinga zemali.
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