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Kunzima kakhulu kimina ukwamukela ukuthi ukusetshenziswa noma cha kwezifihlabuso kufakwe ipolitiki, kodwa cishe akunakwenzeka ukugwinya ukuthi ukusetshenziswa noma cha kwezifihlabuso kwenziwe ngokocansi.

Kule nyanga edlule, ngike ngabuza abantu abangazigqoki izifihla-buso ukuthi ithini imizwa yabo. Omunye wabo wathi: “Ukwesaba. Omunye ngokubhuqa wathi, "Kuwubudoda kakhulu ukuvala umlomo nekhala," kanti owesithathu wathi usopolitiki othile ogqoke imaskhi ubukeka "engenangqondo."

Ubungangiwisa ngevoti. Akuyena uMASKuline? Ngaqala ngacabanga ngencazelo yowesilisa nokuthi zingaki izisho noma imisho yesiNgisi ehlobene nobudoda: indoda phezulu, yenza njengendoda, thatha njengendoda, ingabe uyindoda noma igundane, yiba yindoda.

Ngibone kungcono ngicele abantu abangilandelayo kuFacebook baphawule ukuthi busho ukuthini kubo ubudoda. Bavela ezinhlobonhlobo zezizinda, ubudala nobulili.

• “Esikweni laseNtshonalanga ubudoda bubonakala busho amandla, ulaka, nokugomela. "I-Macho" ngokuvamile ibhekisela ebulilini kanye ne-libido eqinile, ukuba ngumqashi, ngezinye izikhathi ukuthumela, ukubonisa isibindi, futhi mhlawumbe ukubusa okuthile phezu kwabesifazane, ongqingili, nabanye "abangewona abesilisa."
• “Kuyadabukisa ukuthi abanye abantu abasezikhundleni kuleli bathathe isinqumo sokuthi ukugqoka imaskhi kuwuphawu lokuzinikela nokuba buthakathaka. … Ngaphandle kwesifihla-buso, ungumuntu wesilisa kakhulu.
• “Amandla omzimba… amaqhawe angamaGreki afika engqondweni. »
• “Owesilisa uyavuka enze okufanele kuzo zonke izimo. »
• "...indlela indoda emphatha ngayo owesifazane...bonke abesifazane." Kuyisibindi ukwenza okulungile, ngisho nangezindleko zakho.
• "Sengihlangane nabesifazane abaningi engingabachaza njengabantu besilisa, abanye abathandana bodwa, abanye akunjalo."
• “I-yin-yang. «
• "Kunzima ngokwanele ukuba ube nesisa kakhulu, ulinganisele futhi uthintane nemizwa kanye nezindlela zokuxhumana ezithuthukisiwe."
• “…Kukwenza uzizwe uphephile. Khipha okuhle kakhulu kuwe, hhayi okubi kakhulu.
• “Ngeshwa leli gama lingikhumbuza zonke izinto ezingezinhle ezithinta amadoda. Busa, ungabuzisi imibono, imibono nemizwa yabesifazane, lahla amadoda nokubusa ngokomzimba.
• "Izici Ze-Testosterone-Induced". «
• “Ubuholi obunekhono lokuhlehla uma kungeyona into yakho. I-Sexy ngaphandle kwempahla noma ingcindezi. Lalela futhi unikeze izinkulumo.
• "Isikhathi esiningi nginezimo zengqondo ezingezinhle ngenxa yezinto engihlangabezane nazo empilweni kanye nobunzima bami bokuhambisana nezimo ezifana nezempi... kanye nezidingo zemithetho ehambisana nobulili..."
• "Umhlinzeki."
• “Ngiphila phakathi kwamasiko okungenani angu-6 noma angu-7 kwa-Israyeli, kusukela ebudodeni kuye kodlulele, umbusi ophelele wasekhaya nomenzi wawo wonke umlando wokwephulwa kwemithetho yomkhaya, ngezinye izikhathi okuyisigwebo sentambo.
• "Ibuyela emazwini wezinzalamizi ukuchaza amandla, impumelelo nokuzimela ... okungikhathazayo."
• "Iphunga lomzimba".
• “Ukuhlonipha, inhlonipho nokuvikela abantu esibathandayo nabangabazi. »
• "Bengicabanga ukuthi sedlula lawo malebula."
• “Isiqephu esihle sezingoma zesizwe sama-Gorilla kaDawn Prince-Jones, owesifazane one-autistic 'owasindiswa' ngokuhlangana nama-gorilla abesilisa. Uyaqonda ukuthi i-gorilla yesilisa ihlale kanjani ifuna labo ababuthakathaka kunaye.
• "Anginayo ngempela, angikaze ngiyicabange ngempela."
• “… Qonda ukuthi ukuba sengozini nokuthobeka kungamandla, akulona iphutha.
• "Ukuvikelwa nokuhlinzekwa..."
• “Ubaba obuya emsebenzini alinde isidlo sakusihlwa kuze kudliwe umndeni wakhe.
• “Amandla ngaphandle kwesidingo sokubusa; thatha isimo sengqondo ngaphandle "kwendlela yami noma umgwaqo"; … Angasebenza ngokuzimela nangokubambisana neqembu; ungakuthathi ukuhlehla noma ukwehluleka njengokuthuka komuntu siqu, funda kukho.
• "Linganisa ubufazi...qonda ukuthi kufanele ulalele nini, asikho isidingo sokulungisa."
• “Ikhono lokuthatha izinyathelo ezinolaka, ezifanele, ezisebenzayo neziyimpumelelo. «
• “Cishe nginabesifazane kuphela. Lapho ngithola ithuba lokubona amadodana ami, ngizwa sengathi amandla owesilisa anezela injabulo… imibono ehlukene esekelwe ekuhlanganeni kwawo nobudoda nomhlaba.
• “Ngicabanga ukuthi 'owesilisa' kanye 'nowesifazane' avela esakhiweni esidala. Hlola abanye abantu abasha.
• "Amadoda anoboya kunawo wonke futhi ajwayele ukuba made namazwi aphansi, akunjalo?" «
• "...Uhlangothi oluqinile nolunolaka lwemvelo yomuntu... ingabe ukhona ongaba nalo?"
• "...kungakhala kakhulu ukuthi ungezwa abanye." «
• “Amandla namandla avikelayo nothando. «
• “Kuzivumela ukuba ubambe noma iyiphi indima esimweni esithile, noma ngabe kusho ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula isimo… ungesabi ukwesaba, qaphela lokho kwesaba bese uqhubekela phambili. «
• "Igama elithi 'iduna' selikhethiwe futhi incazelo yalo yashintshwa... 'Macho' ibhekisela ezilwaneni zesilisa, amandla emvelo abesilisa, kanye nendoda evikela futhi ehlonipha abesifazane, esebenzela ukuzuzisa umphakathi wayo, futhi izwi lihle."
• “Ukhululekile esikhumbeni sakho somuntu. Iqiniso."
• "Umuntu othile, njengorabi odumile wamaHasidic Simcha Bunim wake wathi, unephepha ephaketheni ngalinye, elinye elithi, 'Kimi umhlaba wadalwa,' kanti omunye uthi, 'Ngiwuthuli nomlotha. ,' 'Futhi uyazi ukuthi uzolikhipha nini iphepha.
• "...indoda engaphansi kobudoda kucatshangwa ukuthi iyisitabane, kuyilapho ingaba njalo futhi ngokuvamile iqondile 100%..."
• "...impendulo iye yashintsha kancane kancane kimina phakathi neminyaka edlule...manje njengoba sekuyimi kanye [nomkami] sonke isikhathi futhi akukho mncintiswano, ububele, ukusekelwa namandla lapho kudingeka..."
• "Unyawo olunjani guy."
• "... umphumela wokuba namasende nomthondo."
• "Kungase futhi kube kowesifazane...obonisa ukuzethemba, ophetheyo, olalelayo/olalelayo, othatha izinqumo, ophethe kahle, ozinzile/olinganiselayo, onamandla kodwa osengozini."
• "Umyeni wami uyabahlonipha abantu besifazane futhi ngimthola eyindoda."
• "Elinye igama umbono womuntu siqu olenze lingasho lutho, njengokuthi 'iqhawe'."
• “…Njengesihlahla se-oki. Kunuka umhlaba. Kuyigama elijabulisayo, ngiyalibona, incazelo kanye nokubaluleka kubantu, emvelweni, ekwakhiweni kwezakhiwo...ngobuciko namagama. Ngesigqi solimi nomculo. Ngiyawuthanda umuzwa wamandla asekelwe phansi. Ithulisa ubuchopho bami obugxumayo.
• “Abesifazane bakhetha amadoda ikakhulukazi ngokubheka ukuthi bakusiphi isimo emphakathini nokuthi benzani noma abangadingi bakwenze. Angiwathandi lawo magama, kodwa emazweni “athuthukile” abesifazane abawadingi amadoda ezintweni eziningi ezenziwa abantu besifazane emazweni “asathuthuka,” ngakho kuthinta uhlobo lwendoda, nokuthi bungakanani ubudoda noma ubudoda. bayafisa.
• "Umuntu, owesilisa noma owesifazane ... owenza izinto zenzeke futhi angavumeli izinto zenzeke!" «

Manje yithuba lakho. Ithini incazelo yakho ngobudoda? Futhi ingabe ihlobene nokusetshenziswa noma cha kwe-mask?