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Nokho, ubani phakathi kwethu, nganoma isiphi isikhathi, owake wazama ukulungisa esikwenzayo nganoma iyiphi indlela ngenxa yempilo yethu? Kuhle ukusho ukuthi iningi lethu lingase liphakamise izandla zethu kulokho. Mhlawumbe lokhu kwakuhilela ukudla izithelo nemifino okwengeziwe, ukuphuza utshwala obuncane, ukulala kakhulu, ukuvivinya umzimba kakhudlwana, noma ukudla izinto ezibhakwa kancane no-ayisikhilimu (akukho cala ezintweni ezibhakwayo no-ayisikhilimu, njengoba inani elithile linendawo yalo, futhi mina” m ngiqinile ngakho). Kungakhathalekile izifiso zakho zezempilo zesikhathi esidlule noma zamanje, ngizoqhubekela phambili ngicabange ukuthi uyazi ukuthi kunjani ukufisa ukushintsha indlela yakho yokuphila ngendlela engcono kuwe.
Kodwa kuthiwani uma ubufuna ukushintsha isici esingaphezu kwesisodwa sempilo yakho?
Ingabe kuwumqondo omuhle ukuzama ukushintsha imikhuba emibili yokuphila esikhundleni sokuthatha eyodwa ngesikhathi? Ucwaningo olusha lokuhlola lusanda kuphendula lowo mbuzo. Kungani lokhu kuphawuleka? Nokho, njengoba abacwaningi abenze ucwaningo baphawula, ososayensi bebelokhu begxile enqubweni yokuguqula isici esisodwa sendlela yokuphila (isb., ukuzivocavoca umzimba kakhulu), ukushiya inqubo yokuguqula ukuziphatha okungaphezu kokukodwa kube yinkinga.ngaphandle kokuxazulula.
Ukwengeza, ithimba labacwaningi liphawule ukuthi lihlole indlela eyaziwa ngokuthi ukubeka phambili imigomo, njengoba izifundo ezinkulu azikenziwa ukuze kuhlolwe ukuthi ziwusizo yini. Futhi ekugcineni, ithimba labacwaningi ligqamise indlela abahlola ngayo imibono emibili mayelana noshintsho lokuziphatha ku-psychology eceleni: Umbono wokuqala uthatha ukuthi abantu ngeke bakwazi ukwenza izinguquko ezimbili ezinempilo ngesikhathi esisodwa ngoba izinqolobane zangaphakathi abazidingayo ukuphatha ushintsho olulodwa luzokwenza. asuse ikhono labo lokuphatha omunye. Umbono wesibili uthatha ngokuthi abantu bazokwazi ukwenza izinguquko ezimbili zempilo ngesikhathi esisodwa, njengoba lezi zinguquko zibonisa indlela umuntu acabanga ngayo mayelana nokukhetha okungenzeka phambi kwabo.
Ithimba labacwaningi labeka abantu abangaphezu kwe-1400 eqenjini elilodwa lamane labe selibalandela izinyanga ezimbili. Abanye abantu bangene kwelinye lamaqembu amabili okulawula; baqedele kuphela izinyathelo zokuziphatha okuhlobene nokuchitha imali noma ukuziphatha okuhlobene nempilo. Abanye abantu eqenjini ngalinye kulawa amabili okuhlola bathole usizo olubeka phambili umgomo enkonzweni yokuguqula isenzo esisodwa noma ezimbili ezihlobene nempilo. Ngokucacile, abacwaningi bacele abantu kula maqembu ukuthi basho isenzo esisodwa noma ezimbili (kuye ngeqembu labo) izenzo ezihlobene nempilo ezivela ohlwini lwabayisithupha okumele bagxile kuzo ngesikhathi socwaningo (lokhu kuhlanganisa ukuzivocavoca, ukugqoka amazinyo entambo, ukudla imifino. nezithelo, qeda ukudla okungenampilo, ugweme utshwala futhi ushintshe ukuziphatha kokuhlala). Abantu abakula maqembu okuhlola baphinde babelane kafushane ngokuthi bazokubeka kanjani phambili ukuziphatha kwezempilo abakukhethile.
Abacwaningi bathole ukuthi indlela yokubeka phambili imigomo isebenze ukusiza abantu bathuthukise izinqubo zabo zezempilo. Akugcinanga lapho, abantu ocwaningweni bakwazile ukulwela ukwamukela imikhuba emibili enempilo ngesikhathi esisodwa ngaphandle kokuthi noma iyiphi kubo ithinteke futhi ngaphandle kokucekela phansi noma yimaphi amanye amaphethini ezempilo abengagxilile ekunakeni kwabo. Akugcini lapho, abantu abazama ukuthuthukisa izici ezimbili zendlela yabo yokuphila empeleni bathuthukela emigomweni yabo kunalabo abazama ukuthuthukisa ingxenye eyodwa nje yempilo yabo.
Kwabonakala kungenandaba nokuthi yiziphi izingubo ezimbili (kulaba abayisithupha) ababeqondiswe kuzo; izimpumelelo zenzeke ngokuzimela. Ngamanye amazwi, ngokuphambene nombono wokuthi ungavimbela inqubekelaphambili yakho uma ungazikhawuleli ekuthuthukiseni ingxenye eyodwa nje yendlela yakho yokuphila, ukubeka phambili izinguquko ezimbili ezinempilo kungase kube ngcono kunoyedwa.
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Sengikushilo konke lokhu, njengoba abacwaningi basho kahle, lolu cwaningo lusha futhi ucwaningo olwengeziwe luyadingeka ngohlu olubanzi lokuziphatha kwezempilo. Baphinde bathi kusazodingeka ucwaningo oluningi ukuze kubonakale ukuthi le miphumela ithinta kangakanani isibalo sabantu abaningi njengoba abantu abahlale ocwaningweni luqala kwaze kwaba sekugcineni sebebadala futhi bathole imfundo engaphezu kwabangahlalanga ocwaningweni. ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Nokho, le miphumela ivula umnyango wendlela yokucabanga engase ibe nezithelo futhi iphishekele ukuphila okunempilo.
Amazwana Akamuva