Lapho izinto ziba nzima, ngivame ukukhuluma ngedwa buthule noma buthule, ngisebenzisa amazwi ozwela ukuze ngizizwe ngingcono. Uma ngidumala ngomngane, ngingaphinda buthule, “Ngiphatheke kabi ngokuziphatha kwakhe, kodwa akufanele ngizibeke icala.” Uma ngiphatheke kabi ngokuphuthelwa umhlangano, ngingahlebeza ngithi, “Kunzima ukungabi lapha lapho ngifuna ukuvakashela wonke umuntu kabi kangaka. Uma ngingaphiki ukuthi ngiphatheke kabi, futhi ngisho ngikuvuma ngozwela, ngiyakwazi ukubhekana kangcono nokudumala nobuhlungu.
Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule, nginqume ukubheka izingcaphuno ezivela kwabanye abantu ukuze banginikeze imibono yokwandisa ingoma yami yokuzikhulumela. Ngamanye amazwi, nganginethemba lokuthi ngizoba nobuciko ngokwengeziwe ngokukhuluma ngedwa! Yilokhu engikutholile. Ngethemba ukuthi uthola lokhu kuwusizo.
Uhlobo oluphakeme kakhulu lokuhlakanipha umusa. - I-Talmud
Uma uzithola unolunye lwalezo zinsuku lapho ungazizwa uhlakaniphile khona (ngizazi kahle lezo zinsuku), lesi sisho singakukhumbuza uhlobo oluphakeme kakhulu lokuhlakanipha. Umusa kithi nakwabanye yinto esingahlale siyibekela indawo ezimpilweni zethu.
Angikwazi ukushintsha lapho umoya uya khona, kodwa ngiyakwazi ukulungisa amaseyili ami... —umculi wezwe uJimmy Dean
Kungaba kuhle uma singalawula isikhathi emiqondweni yethu, kodwa ingqondo izocabanga lokho ekucabangayo. Yilokho okwenziwa yimimoya: ingxoxo yengxoxo. Izinto eziningi azinangqondo futhi eziningi zingasenza sizizwe kabi ngathi. Kodwa akudingekile ukuba sikholwe le micabango. Singacabanga ngomcabango njengamandla engqondo asafufusa, esikhashana (yilokho engikushoyo ngokuthi "xoxa, xoxa, xoxa"!).
Ukungabaza ukufaneleka kwemicabango yethu kuyindlela enekhono yokulungisa oseyili bethu ukuze sikwazi ukushintsha indlela esibheke kuyo futhi sisuke emicabangweni enezivunguvungu necindezelayo. Singaziqeqeshela nokubamba umoya wemicabango yothando nozwelo ukuze ichume ezingqondweni zethu.
Izimbali nezihlahla ezinameva zimila othulini olufanayo. —Umbhali uCynthia Lewis
Kuyisikhumbuzo esihle sokuthi ngeke sazi ukuthi into enhle izovela nini othulini olusizungezile.
Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokwenza umqondo woshintsho ukuthi ungene shí kukho, uhambe nakho, futhi ujoyine umdanso. - U-Alan Watts
Ngokubona kwami, uma ufuna ngempela ukuthula kule mpilo, kunengqondo ukusebenzela ukwamukela ushintsho. Lesi sisho sibaluleke kakhulu kimi kangangokuthi ngisibeke ekuqaleni kwesahluko sokuqala sencwadi yami entsha!
Akekho owake walinganisa, ngisho nezimbongi, ukuthi inhliziyo ingaqukatha okungakanani. —Zelda Fitzgerald
Ngawo wonke ama-akhawunti, uZelda Fitzgerald wayengumuntu okhathazekile. Noma kunjalo, kubonakala sengathi wayeyiqonda inhliziyo yomuntu. Ukuphindaphinda amazwi akhe kungasikhumbuza ukuthi izinhliziyo zethu zingabamba, njengoba nje umzali ebamba usana olusanda kuzalwa, yonke into ephathelene nokuphila kwethu, kuhlanganise nezinselele nobunzima bayo.
Umbuso omncane enginawo, lapho kuhlala khona imicabango nemizwa; Futhi umsebenzi engiwutholayo wokuwubusa kahle unzima kakhulu. —ULouisa May Alcott
Kungumsebenzi onzima kakhulu, kodwa wonke esingawenza. Ukubusa imicabango nemizwa yethu kuqala ngokuqaphela okuzuzisayo nalokho okungeyona, bese sikhuthaza eyokuqala kodwa hhayi yakamuva. Imicabango nemizwa enenzuzo yikhona okusisiza ukuthi samukele izimpilo zethu, noma sidonsa kanzima. Imicabango nemizwa enenzuzo yiyo futhi evula izinhliziyo zethu kwabanye njengoba sonke sihlanganyela iplanethi eyodwa.
Ukukhuthaza imicabango nemizwa ezuzisayo kungaba ngezindlela eziningi. Uma uthanda ukubona ngeso lengqondo, ungacabanga umcabango noma umuzwa wokuzidabukela ocwebezela nakakhulu, uze ugcwalise umzimba wakho wonke. Noma ungavumela umcabango onomusa noma umuzwa usakaze kancane kancane engqondweni yakho uze ufinyelele kuwo wonke umuntu ngesifiso sokuthi ukuhlupheka kwabo kunciphe.
Amafu ayeza ukuzontanta empilweni yami, engasalethi imvula noma aqale isiphepho, kodwa ezongeza umbala esibhakabhakeni sami ekushoneni kwelanga. -Imbongi yaseBengali uRabindranath Tagore
Amazwi ka-Rabindranath Tagore ahlala emnandi futhi ehlakaniphile. Wayekhuluma ngokuguga kuleyo ngcaphuno, kodwa kimi, amazwi akhe ayasebenza nalapho ukuphila kwethu konakaliswa umzabalazo. Ngezinye izikhathi ngithatha inselele yokuthola indawo yombala omuhle ngisho nasezimweni ezinzima kakhulu.
Izinhlungu ezinkulu yilezo esizibangela thina. — USophocle
Sizibangela ubuhlungu ngokunamathela ezifisweni zethu, engivame ukubhekisela kuzo njengokufuna/ukungafuni ukukhathalela. Uma sibheka ukuphila kwethu ngobuqotho, siyothola ukuthi eziningi zezifiso zethu azifezeki. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isikhathi esiningi, asikwazi ukulawula izinguquko ezibonakala zingapheli ekuphileni kwethu. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ngikuthola kuwusizo ukuziphindaphinda: “Kubuhlungu ngoba ngifuna ukulawula lokho engingakwazi ukukulawula.
Ukubekezela kuwukukholelwa ukuthi kunesikhathi esisodwa kuphela esedlule; Ukudedela ukwazi ukuthi likhona ikusasa. —Umbhali uDaphne Rose Kingma
Ukuphila esikhathini esidlule kuwumthombo wokungajabuli kimi. Ukudedela kuyakhulula.
Mina ngokwami, angazi ngokuqinisekile, kodwa ukubona izinkanyezi kungenza ngiphuphe. - UVincent van Gogh
Uma ukubona izinkanyezi kungenza lomphefumulo okhathazekile uphuphe, lokhu kubonwa kungasenza siphuphe.
Lokho isibungu esikubiza ngokuthi ukuphela komhlaba, uthisha ubiza uvemvane. - URichard Bach
Ukuphinda lo mcabango omuhle ngobumnene noma buthule kungasisiza ukuthi sikhumbule ukuthi yonke into inyakaza kulo mhlaba. Isimo sezulu sanamuhla singase, kusasa, sibe ukwazisa ngobuhle bokuphila, nakuba esingakwazi ukukuhlanganisa nje ukwazisa uvemvane oluncane.
Anginayo impandla; Ngingumuntu wekhanda. -Umuntu ongamazi
Angikwazanga ukumelana nayo. Ngambona egqoke i-sweatshirt ngelinye ilanga. Abanye kungase kudingeke bakuthathe ngokoqobo. Abanye bangalisebenzisa ngendlela engokomfanekiso ukuze baguqule umbono ongemuhle ube owakhayo.
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Ekugcineni, nazi izingcaphuno ezibhalwe ngomuntu wesibili. Ngithathe inkululeko yokuwashintsha abe umuntu wokuqala ebunyeni ukuze abe sesimweni ongasisebenzisa ukuze ukhulume ngomusa omunye komunye. Khetha ezikufanele kakhulu.
Akekho ongangenza ngizizwe ngingelutho ngaphandle kwemvume yami. - Eleanor Roosevelt
Ngingakwazi ukubamba okwedlule ngikuqinise esifubeni sami kangangokuthi kushiya izingalo zami zigcwele kakhulu ukwamukela okwamanje. — UJan Glidewell
Kunezindlela ezimbili zokuphila impilo yami. Sengathi akukho okuyisimangaliso. Omunye ungathi yonke into iyisimangaliso. - U-Albert Einstein
Isicaphuna sokugcina kulesi siqeshana sivela kuJoseph Campbell. Ngike ngawacaphuna amazwi akhe ngaphambili, kodwa kumuntu wokuqala ngobuningi (“thina”) njengoba ewabhala. Ngezinjongo zethu, ngithathe inkululeko yokubeka lesisho kumuntu wokuqala ebunyeni. Ngiyethemba nisebenzisa amazwi akhe njengami, ngiwaphinda kini ngezwi lozwelo:
Kumele ngiyiyeke impilo engangiyihlele ukuze ngamukele engilindele.
© 2015 Toni Bernhard. Ngiyabonga ngokufunda umsebenzi wami. Ngingumbhali wezincwadi ezine:
Indlela Yokugula: I-Pocket Companion Yakho (kulabo abafunde ukuthi Ungagula Kanjani nalabo abangakafundi). 2020
Ungagula Kanjani: Umhlahlandlela Ophefumulelwe UbuBuddha Wabagula Kakhulu Nabanakekeli Babo (Uhlelo Lwesibili) lwango-2018
Ukuphila Kahle Ngezinhlungu Ezingapheli Nokugula: Umhlahlandlela Wokucabangela (2015)
Ungavuka Kanjani: Umhlahlandlela Ophefumlelwe WamaBuddha Wokuzulazula Enjabulweni Nobuhlungu (2013)
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