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Ukwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato ziimeko ezisemthethweni ekungekho mntu ufuna ukudlula kuzo, kodwa maxa wambi zinokunikelwa njengezicombululo ezingenakuthintelwa kwiingxaki ezinokubakho phakathi kwamaqabane. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kusoloko kulungile ukwazi yonke into malunga nezi meko ukuphepha ukuwela kuzo okanye ukwazi indlela yokujongana nazo ngokufanelekileyo, ukuba zaziza kwenzeka.

Xa abantu ababini begqiba kwelokuba bathelele ubomi babo emtshatweni, bakwenza oko ngenjongo eqinileyo yokuhlala kunye ubomi babo bonke; kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha, oku kusenokungabi njalo kwaye, endaweni yoko, baphelisa ubudlelwane kunye nokwahlukana kokugqibela okanye uqhawulo-mtshato. Enyanisweni, yimeko eqhelekileyo ukuba, ngokwezibalo, Ibhaliswe kwi-50% yezibini ezenziwe ngokusemthethweni.

Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kuyafaneleka ukwazi ukuba zisebenza njani iimeko ezimbini ezisemthethweni ezichaza ukwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato lwezibini ezitshatileyo, ukuphepha ukufikelela kobu bugxwayiba okanye, ukuba kuyenzeka, ukwazi ukwenza ngokusemthethweni ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo.

Umahluko phakathi kokwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato kukuba eso sangaphambili sesokwexeshana, ngoxa eso samva sesokugqibela. Oko kukuthi, xa abantu ababini besahlukene ngokusemthethweni, emva kwexesha elithile banokukhulula isimo sabo njengabatshati baze babuyele ukuze babelane njengesibini; ngoxa kuqhawulo-mtshato akukho kubuyela umva yaye ukuqhawulwa kweqhina lomtshato kuyinto yokugqibela.

Uqhawulo-mtshato kunye nokwahlukana kunokwenzeka nangaliphi na ixesha kubudlelwane, kwizibini eziselula okanye kwabo bahlala kunye iminyaka emininzi. Kunzima kakhulu ukuqikelela, kodwa kunokwenzeka nakubani na xa kungekho budlelwane obuhle bomtshato.

Ngokomzekelo, kuhle ukwazi ukuba kunjani ukwahlula ngo 40 into ekungekho mntu ukuxelela yona, ekubeni kule minyaka yonke into intsonkothe ​​ngakumbi, ngenxa yazo zonke izinto ezinokubandakanya izibakala. Nangeyiphi ndlela, Kuhlala kucetyiswa ukuba ufumane inkxaso yezomthetho elungileyo kunye negqwetha eliyingcali elincedisa kwiinkqubo zomthetho ezibandakanyekayo.

Indlela yokufumana inkxaso yezomthetho efanelekileyo?

Kukho iiofisi zomthetho ezikhethekileyo ezinamagqwetha oMthetho woSapho anokukunceda ukusombulula imeko yakho ngokulula kwaye ngaphandle kokuhlawula imirhumo ephezulu. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba uzame ukukhuthaza uqhawulo-mtshato olukhawulezayo olubonakala ngokukhawulezisa, kuvunyelwene phakathi kwamaqela amabini kwaye kunokubiza kancinci njengee-euro ezili-150 ngowayesakuba liqabane ngalinye.

Amagqwetha asebenza nzima kulo mmandla aphuhlisa iinkqubo zomthetho ezihambelanayo ngokukhawuleza, ngakumbi kwimeko yoqhawulo-mtshato oluvunyelweneyo ekungeyomfuneko ukuba lusiwe enkundleni. Kwezi meko, kwanele ukufikelela kwizivumelwano ezithile, ukuzoba uxwebhu olufanelekileyo, lutyikitye ngawo omabini amaqela kwaye luzise phambi kommeli ukuze aqhawule umtshato ngokusesikweni.

Kwisivumelwano solawulo esihambelanayo, amagatya ahlukeneyo anokusekwa anceda amaqela omabini kwaye ancede ukulungisa inkxalabo eqhelekileyo "ukuba ndohlukana andinandawo yokuya”, kuba iimeko ezithile zinokuqinisekiswa ukunqanda nabaphi na ababesakuba liqabane ukuba bangabi nakuzinceda.

Kungenxa yoko, ukubandakanyeka kwegqwetha elilungileyo kubalulekile kuphuhliso lwalo naluphi na uqhawulo-mtshato, enoba luvela ngokuphandle okanye luxambulisana (enkundleni), ekubeni kungale ndlela kuphela apho izicombululo ezinobulungisa zinokuqinisekiswa ngabo bobabini.

Isicwangciso sifanele sisoloko sisesokuba abo babesakuba ngamaqabane banolwabiwo oluchanekileyo lwempahla ezuziweyo emtshatweni kunye nokhuseleko lwemali elungeleleneyo ukuze bazixhase emva kokwahlukana, yaye oku kunokuphunyezwa kuphela ngoncedo olusemthethweni olufanelekileyo.

Ukufumana efanelekileyo, kwanele ukuphonononga iindidi ezininzi zamagqwetha agqwesileyo kwi-intanethi. Kukho ii-arhente zomthetho ezikhethekileyo ezineengcali zomthetho kuMthetho woSapho ezinokukunceda ukuba wahlukane ngokusemthethweni okanye uqhawule umtshato, ngeendleko eziphantsi kwaye ngokukhawuleza nangokulula.

Ke, ukuba, ngelishwa, kufuneka ubhenele kuqhawulo-mtshato ukusombulula imeko yakho yobudlelwane, funa inkxaso yezomthetho yamagqwetha omtshato akucebisayo nokuphuhlisa iinkqubo ezihambelanayo, baya kuhlala befuna okona kulungileyo kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo.