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Kwakabva: Paul Ross, akashandiswa nemvumo

Zvakandiomera kuti ndigamuchire kuti kushandiswa kana kusaitwa kwemasks kwave nezvematongerwo enyika, asi zvinenge zvisingaite kumedza kuti kushandiswa kana kusaitwa kwemasks kwaitwa zvepabonde.

Mumwedzi wapfuura, ndakabvunza vanhu vasingapfeki masiki manzwiro avo. Mumwe wavo akati: “Kuri kutya. Mumwe akatsvinya akati: "Zvinhu zvechirume kuvhara muromo nemhino," uye wechitatu akati mumwe wezvematongerwo enyika ainyanya kupfeka mask airatidza "kupenga."

Waigona kundiwisira pasi nevhoti. Haasi MASKuline here? Ndakatanga kufunga kududzirwa kwechirume uye kuti matauriro kana zvirevo zvechirungu zvinechekuita neurume zvingani: murume kumusoro, ita semurume, zvitore semurume, uri murume here kana mbeva, iva murume.

Ndakafunga kubvunza vanonditevera paFacebook kuti vataure kuti zvinorevei kwavari. Vanobva mukusiyana kukuru kwemamiriro, mazera uye varume nevakadzi.

• “Mutsika dzekuMadokero, hurume hunoratidzika kunge hunoreva simba, hutsinye uye hushingi. "Macho" kazhinji inoreva zvepabonde uye libido yakasimba, kuva bhosi, dzimwe nguva kutumira, kuratidza hushingi, uye zvichida humwe hutongi pamusoro pevakadzi, ngochani, uye vamwe vasiri "varume."
• “Zvinorwadza kuti vamwe vanhu vane zvinzvimbo munyika muno vafunga kuti kupfeka mask chiratidzo chekuzvipira uye kushaya simba. …Pasina chifukidzo, unowedzera kuva murume.
• “Simba renyama… Magamba echiGiriki anouya mupfungwa. »
• “Murume anosimuka oita zvinofanirwa kuitwa mumamiriro ese ezvinhu. »
• "... mabatiro anoita murume mukadzi... vakadzi vese." Kushinga kuita chinhu chakanaka, kunyange nemari yako.
• "Ndakasangana nevakadzi vakawanda vandingati varume, vamwe ngochani, vamwe kwete."
• "Iyo yin yang. «
• "Zvakaoma zvakakwana kuti uve munyoro kwazvo, mukuenzanisa uye kubata nemanzwiro uye nzira dzakagadziridzwa dzekutaura."
• “…Zvinoita kuti unzwe wakachengeteka. Budisa zvakanakisa mauri, kwete zvakaipa.
• “Nehurombo, izwi iri rinoburitsa zvese zvakaipa zvevarume kwandiri. Tonga, usakoshesa maonero, pfungwa nemanzwiro evakadzi, shora varume nekutonga kwenyama.
• "Testosterone-induced maitiro." «
• "Utungamiri nekugona kutora nhanho kumashure kana isiri yako. Sexy pasina pfuma kana pressure. Teerera uye upe hurukuro.
• "Ini ndine mafungiro asina kunaka nekuda kwezviitiko zvangu muhupenyu uye matambudziko angu anoenderana nenzvimbo dzakaita sechiuto ...
• "Mupi."
• “Ndinogara pakati pedzinenge 6 kana kuti 7 tsika dzinozivikanwa muIsraeri, dzinovambira paurume kusvikira pakunyanyisa, mutongi akakwana womumba nomupari wepunzo dzose dzemitemo yemhuri, uko pane dzimwe nguva chirango chorufu.
• "Inodzokera kumashoko emadzitateguru kuti atsanangure simba, kubudirira uye kusununguka ... izvo zvinondishungurudza."
• "Kunhuwa kwemuviri".
• "Kukudza, ruremekedzo uye kudzivirira vadikani nevasingazivi. »
• "Ndaifunga kuti tiri kupfuura zvinyorwa zviya."
• "Nzira yakanaka muNziyo dzeNyika yeGorilla naDawn Prince-Jones, mukadzi ane autism 'akaponeswa' nekusangana nemagorila echirume. Hwisisa kuti gorilla rume rinogara richitsvaga sei vasina simba kumupfuura.
• "Chaizvoizvo handina, handina kumbofunga nezvazvo."
• “…Nzwisisa kuti kusagadzikana uye kuzvininipisa isimba, kwete chikanganiso.
• "Kudzivirira uye kupa ..."
• “Baba vanobva kubasa vomirira kudya kusvikira mhuri yavo yadya.
• “Simba risina chikonzero chokutonga; kutora mafungiro asina "nzira yangu kana mugwagwa mukuru"; …Inogona kushanda yakazvimiririra uye mukubatana neboka; Usatora zvipingamupinyi kana kukundikana sekutuka iwe pachako, dzidza kubva kwavari.
• "Balance femininity ... kunzwisisa nguva yekuteerera, hapana chikonzero chekugadzirisa."
• "Kugona kutora zviito zvehasha, zvakakodzera, zvinobudirira uye zvinobudirira. «
• “Ndinenge ndiine vanhukadzi chete. Kana ndikawana mukana wekuona vanakomana vangu, ndinonzwa simba rechirume richiwedzera mufaro…maonero akasiyana anoenderana nekusangana kwavo kwechirume nenyika.
• "Ndinofunga kuti 'chirume' uye 'chikadzi' chinobva mukuvaka kwechinyakare. Ongorora vamwe vechidiki.
• "Varume ndivo vane vhudzi zvakanyanya uye kazhinji vakareba vane mazwi epasi, handizvo here?" «
• "... Rutivi rwakaoma uye rune hasha rwehunhu hwevanhu ... pane munhu angave narwo here?"
• "... inogona kuita ruzha zvekuti haugone kunzwa vamwe." «
• “Simba nesimba zvinodzivirira nerudo. «
• “Kuzvibvumira kuita chero basa mune imwe mamiriro ezvinhu, kunyangwe zvichireva kuti hausi kutonga mamiriro ezvinhu… usatya kutya, wobva waziva kutya ikoko uye ukunde. «
• “Izwi rekuti ‘chirume’ rakasarudzwa pamwe chete uye zvarinoreva zvakachinjwa... ‘Macho’ rinoreva mhuka dzechirume, masimba echirume emusikirwo, uye murume anodzivirira nekuremekedza vakadzi, anoshandira zvakanakira nharaunda yake, uye ane izwi rakanaka."
• “Kusununguka paganda rako remunhu. Chokwadi."
• "Mumwe munhu uyo, saRabhi ane mukurumbira weHasidic Simcha Bunim akamboti, ane bepa muhomwe imwe neimwe, imwe inoti, 'Kwandiri nyika yakasikwa,' uye imwe inoti, 'Ndiri guruva nemadota. ,' 'Uye anoziva nguva yokubudisa pepa ripi.
• "... murume mushoma murume anofungidzirwa kuva ngochani, nepo achigona uye kazhinji ari 100% akatwasuka..."
• "... mhinduro yacho yakachinja zvishoma nezvishoma kwandiri mumakore ... zvino kuti ini chete uye [mudzimai wangu] nguva dzose uye pasina makwikwi, itsitsi, tsigiro uye simba kana zvichidiwa ... "
• "Mufana wetsoka."
• "... mhedzisiro yekuva nemachende nemboro."
• "Zvinogonawo kuva mumukadzi ... ane chivimbo, anotora simba, anoteerera / anoteerera, anoita zvisarudzo, ane simba guru, akadzikama / akadzikama, akasimba asi ari panjodzi."
• "Murume wangu anoremekedza vakadzi nemoyo wese uye ndinomuwana ari murume chaiye."
• "Imwe izwi rekuti maonero emunhu haana zvazvinoreva, senge 'gamba'."
• “…Semuoki. Inonhuwa kunge pasi. Iri izwi rinonaka, ndinoriona, chirevo uye chirevo muvanhu, mumasikirwo, mukuvakwa ... muunyanzvi nemashoko. Kune mutinhimira wemutauro nemumhanzi. Ndinoda kunzwa kwesimba rakadzika. Inodzikamisa uropi hwangu huri kurovera.
• “Madzimai anosarudza varume zvakanyanya zvichienderana nerudzi rwenzanga yavari uye zvavanoita kana zvavasingafaniri kuita. Mazwi iwayo handiafarire, asi munyika dzakasimukira vakadzi havadi varume pane zvakawanda zvinoitwa nevakadzi munyika dziri kusimukira, saka zvinokanganisa rudzi rwemurume, uye kuti kuhura kwakadii kana kuti murume. vanoda.
• "Mumwe munhu, murume kana mukadzi ... anoita kuti zvinhu zviitike uye haangoregi zvinhu zvichiitika!" «

Iye zvino ndiyo nguva yako. Ndeipi tsanangudzo yako yehurume? Uye ine hukama nekushandiswa kana kwete kwemask?