Yakanyorwa pamwe naMarcia Gralha
Iyi ndiyo yechitanhatu munhevedzano yemablog akazvipira kutsanangura nzira iyo CALM-MO maitiro ekuchengeta pfungwa inodzosera kumashure neurotic loops. Senge dissertation ichangoburwa yakajekeswa zvakadzama (Miller, 2022; ona pano), CALM-MO chishandiso chinobatanidza hungwaru hwehuchenjeri hwe psychotherapy hwakatorwa kubva mukutungamirira nzira.
Funga nezvenguva yawakaita chimwe chinhu chawakazvidemba uye wakanzwa kunyara kukuru kana kuzvipa mhosva. Wakambozvishora here uye wakaomerwa nekuenderera mberi? Iye zvino, funga nezvenguva apo vamwe vaikuitira hasha kana kuti nokusaruramisira. Kana kuti nguva apo nyika yainzwa senzvimbo isina kururama yaikurwadza kakawanda. Wakazviwana umene wakabatwa mumuitiro wokuva nemhaka nepfundepfunde zvairatidzika kuva zvisingabviri kukurirwa here?
Tsitsi dzerudo ndidzo "L" munzira yeCALM-MO, uye iyi positi inoongorora kuti sei uye nei kuikudziridza iwe pachako, kune vamwe, uye kune nyika.
Chii chinonzi tsitsi dzorudo uye nei dzimwe nguva dzakaoma?
Kuti tinzwisise zvatiri kutaura, tinogona kutanga nekufunga nezvetsitsi senzira huru yehukama nenyika pane kuita chaiyo mamiriro ezvinhu. Mubhuku rake Humankind, Bregman (2019) anonyora makomo ehumbowo hwekuti vanhu vanogona kuve vane mutsa, kushandira pamwe, kushamwaridzana, uye rudo. Chokwadi, vanhu vanogonawo kuva noruvengo, udyire, uye ruvengo. Asi gakava rakasimba rinogona kuitwa rekuti yekutanga ndiyo yakasarudzika, nepo yekupedzisira ndeyekuita kune kukuvara. Izvi zvinoreva kuti tose zvedu tinokwanisa kushamwaridzana nenyika netsitsi dzorudo.
Tora miniti uye fungidzira zvinotevera zviitiko. Kutanga, iwe wakagara muresitorendi uye patafura iri pedyo newe pane mwana ari kuchema nababa vake.
Baba vakatsamwa vanoti kumwana muduku, anozviisa pasi, “Chii chakaipa newe? Iwe haufe wakaita chero chinhu chakanaka! "Rega kuchema, uri kuita kuti zvese zvinyanye!"
Iye zvino, fungidzira uchifamba mupaki uye waona boka revachiri kuyaruka richinetsa waunodzidza naye akasuruvara, anonyara.
Pakupedzisira, fungidzira chiitiko apo shamwari yako yepedyo inochema papfudzi rako pashure pokunge waona kuti mumwe wako ave achikubiridzira kwemakore.
Cherechedza kuti unonzwa sei mune imwe neimwe furemu; sezvingabvira zvikuru akanzwa kunzwa kwokuitira hanya. Kureva kuti aikoshesa kukosha kwomwana akakuvadzwa, wechiduku anodheererwa, kana kuti shamwari yake yaainge atengesa. Uye aifunga kuti kukuvara kwake kwakanga kusina kunaka uye kwakanga kusina kururama. Naizvozvo, nemhaka yokuitira hanya uye kunzwa kwechiremera chavo chinokosha nokukosha, wakashuva kuti dai nyika yakanga yavabata zviri nani uye kuti kutambura kwavo kwakanga kwaderedzwa. Uyu ndiwo musimboti wezvatinoreva netsitsi dzerudo.
Ehe, kune zviitiko zvakawanda apo vanhu vane dambudziko rekunzwira tsitsi nekuti vanotenda kuti havakodzeri. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika pakuzvinzwira tsitsi. Vanhu vazhinji vakazviomesera zvakanyanya kupfuura zvavangave pane mudikanwi kana kunyange mutorwa ari mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana. Uyezve, patinoona kuti vamwe kana kuti nyika ndiyo iri kukonzera kutambura kwedu, ndekwomuzvarirwo kuti tiite utsinye hwokuzvidzivirira. Muizvi zvimiro zvendangariro, iye amene kana kuti vamwe havaratidziki kuva vakafanirwa netsitsi dzorudo.
Zvisineyi, pachinzvimbo chekuti tive chimiro chechinangwa chatinofanira kuwana, tsitsi dzerudo kudzoka kuchimiro chakakosha cheruremekedzo, rukudzo uye ushingi. Yakaumbwa saizvozvo, tsitsi dzerudo hazvibvi pakubudirira kwedu uye kubudirira kwedu, asi ihwo hunhu hwekutanga uye nzira yekuve munyika. Misimboti mishanu inotevera inotsigira maitiro etsitsi dzerudo muCALM-MO.
1. Kutenda mukuremekedzwa kukuru kwevanhu uye kuchiparadzanisa kubva pakuwedzerwa chiremera.
Chiremerera chakakosha chinoreva chokwadi chekuti vanhu vese vanokodzera kukosheswa nekuremekedzwa. Ndiyo pfungwa inosimbisa United Declaration of Human Rights uye inogona kuumbwa senheyo yevanhu vedu. Chokwadi, sezvatinoziva tose, vanhu vakawanda vanoita zvisina kufanira uye vanokuvadza chiremera chevamwe. Tinogona kuaronga sezviito zve“chiremerera chokuwedzera,” uye anofanira kuongororwa maererano. Nekudaro, pane hwaro hwekutanga hwechiremera chakakosha, uye uku ndiko kukosha kunotungamira tsitsi dzerudo muCALM-MO.
2. Kutambura hakudzivisiki uye tsitsi imhinduro yerudo
Sezvatakacherekedza mune imwe bhurogu yapfuura, chokwadi chisingadzivisiki chokutambura ndechimwe chezvokwadi huru dzeBuddhism. Ichi chokwadi chinombundirwa neCALM-MO, uye kukudziridza kugamuchirwa kwayo chinhu chakakosha chemaitiro. Zvisinei, kunze kwekugamuchirwa, tinogonawo kuchengetedza maonero edu kune zvatinotarisira kuti nyika ichave yakaita. Uye pano tinoona kuti tsitsi imhinduro yorudo pakutambura kwemarudzi ose. Sezvinoitwa mumienzaniso iri pamusoro, inomiririra kuzvidemba kwatinoita pamusoro pekutambudzika kwenyika uye chido chedu chokuti isunungurwe.
Kuverenga kwakakosha paNeuroticism
3. Ruvengo uye kuva nemhaka zvinonzwisisika, asi hazvisi zvakanaka
Tinouya takashongedzerwa nekugona kutonga, kuvenga nekupomera. Uye nenzira imwecheteyo, isu takasikwa takadzikatidzwa kuva prosocial, ruvengo, mhosva uye kunyadziswa ndiwo mhinduro dzechisikigo kune kusaruramisira kukuvadza, kurwadziwa, kukundikana uye kurasikirwa. Yakaiswa mumamiriro ezvinhu eCALM-MO, aya ndiwo maitiro ekutanga ekutanga kumamiriro asina kunaka. Nekudaro, mhinduro dzakadai dzinofanirwa kugamuchirwa uye kuchengetedzwa sekudaro, sezvo dzisiri hunhu hunoita kuti nekufamba kwenguva dzinotungamira kune dzakakosheswa nyika. Nemamwe manzwi, tinogona kuanzwa, kuagamuchira, uye kutungamirira zviito zvedu kuapfuura.
4. Kubatanidza tsitsi dzerudo nekurudziro kumatunhu akakosha ekuve
Kuzvinzwira tsitsi uye kunzwira vamwe tsitsi hakurevi kungogadzirisa marwadzo uye kutambura. Panzvimbo pezvo, tsitsi dzorudo dzinogona kuva chimiro chendangariro chinosunda kuchinja. Patinosangana nekukosha kwakakosha kwedu uye nevamwe, tinoisa pfungwa dzedu pakuziva zvatinokwanisa uye kukudziridza hupenyu hwekuchenjera.
5. Tinogona kuva netsitsi kana tisina
Pakupedzisira, kufanana nokuchinja kwose kwakadzama uye kunogarisa munzira yedu yokuva, kukudziridza tsitsi dzorudo ibasa rakaoma. Ndiwo masikirwo emanzwiro ekutanga kupa miviri yedu simba nemafungiro akasimba ekuita. Apo patinokudziridza kukwanisa kunyatsocherechedza mhinduro dzedu dzemanzwiro kuzviitiko zvehupenyu hwedu, tinodzidza kumbomira uye kutungamira mafungiro edu nechido, kubvuma, tsitsi dzerudo, uye kukurudzira.
Zvinotarisirwa kuti apo patinofambira mberi munzira yekuzviita nekukura, pachava nekukundikana mukukwanisa kwedu kumiririra nzira yedu yakanaka yekupindura. Zvinonyanya kuitika mumamiriro ezvinhu aya umo tsitsi dzorudo dziri pakati.
Kutyora kutadza kushanda kunosanganisira kuzvinzwira tsitsi patinenge takukurwa nemasaisai ekuita zvinhu zvisina pfungwa. Saka, kana iwe uchizviwisira pasi, imbomira, activate yako CALM-MO yakangwara modhi, uye ubatane nehukoshi hwako hwepakati semunhu akakodzera kunzwira tsitsi.
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