Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lachikondi amamva kukakamizidwa kukhala pachibwenzi. Sichikhumbo chofuna kukhala pachibwenzi, koma kufunikira kwenikweni kukhala mbali ya okwatirana kuti amve kukwanira. Amayi ndi abambo omwe amakonda kukonda amakhalabe muubwenzi wowononga, wovulaza komanso wankhanza m'malo mosiya chibwenzi.
Okonda chikondi amaikanso zofuna za mnzawo patsogolo pazake. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri ndikofunikira muubwenzi wabwinobwino, kuyang'ana kwakanthawi kwa okondedwa m'malo mongoganizira za inu nokha, wokonda chikondi amakhala ndi malingaliro amoyo wonse pazosowa za mnzake.
Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti kuledzera kwa chikondi sikuchokera pa chilakolako cha kugonana kapena chilakolako chachikondi. M'malo mwake, ndi chikhulupiriro chozama kuti iwo sali athunthu ndi amphumphu pokhapokha ngati ali paubwenzi. Izi nthawi zambiri zimayamba chifukwa cha kunyalanyaza ndi kunyalanyaza nkhani paubwana ndipo pamene zikuwonekera mu maubwenzi achikondi, zimakhala chitsanzo.
Chizoloŵezi chachikondi, monga chizolowezi chilichonse, chingathe kulamuliridwa ndi kusinthidwa. Anthu omwe amakonda kukonda amatha kuphunzira kukhala okhutira ndi iwo eni ndikupeza mabwenzi athanzi omwe ali okhazikika m'malingaliro komanso omwe ali ndi chidwi chopatsana.
Nthawi zina m'makhalidwe olakwika, wokonda chikondi amatha kukhala munthu wopewa chikondi. Kupewa chikondi nthawi zambiri kumawonedwa ngati kusapezeka kwamalingaliro kapena kusapezeka kwamalingaliro, pomwe lingaliro lotsamira pa wina limabweretsa nkhawa, kukhumudwa, ndi kusapeza bwino. Ndi anthu omwe amafuna kukhala pachibwenzi, koma amaopa kudzitaya kapena kudzimva kuti ali ndi nkhawa.
Zizindikiro za kupewa m'chikondi
Munthu yemwe anali ndi mbiri yokonda kukonda ayenera kudziwa zizindikiro zotsatirazi zomwe zingasonyeze kupeŵa chikondi:
- Sinthani Mwachidwi kwa Wokondedwa: Anthu omwe poyamba amakhala atcheru komanso owoneka bwino, kenako amakhala ozizira komanso otalikirana mwadala amakhazikitsa zotchinga kuti adziteteze kuti asapezeke ndi wokondedwa wawo.
- Kupanda ubwenzi wapamtima: Kuopa kukhala wekha kapena kuopa kuwonedwa ngati otetezeka komanso omasuka m'maganizo kumayambitsa mantha owona komanso kukhala okondana. Nthawi zina, ubwenzi wamtima ukhoza kuchitika womwe umachotsedwa kapena kukanidwa nthawi yomweyo.
- Chitani zina: Anthu amatha kuika patsogolo makhalidwe ena ndi "zinthu" kuposa chiyanjano. Zitha kukhala kuthera nthawi yayitali kuntchito, kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapena kucheza ndi anzanu, kapena zitha kukhala zowopsa kwambiri monga kuledzera.
- Kulephera kuyankhula zakukhosi: Okonda chikondi nthawi zonse amalankhula zakukhosi kwawo, pomwe kupewa chikondi sikumatsegulana. Kwa iwo omwe sali okhudzidwa ndi malingaliro, malingaliro oipa ndi abwino ndi ovuta kufotokoza.
Anthu ambiri omwe amapewa chikondi amakhala odzitchinjiriza pakulephera kwawo kulumikizana komanso kukhala ndi ubale wabwino. Nthawi zambiri amakhala akukana ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito mkwiyo ndi chitetezo ngati chotchinga chowonjezera pakupanga ubale wapamtima ndi kulumikizana.
Phunzirani kukhulupirira
Kusakhulupirira chisungiko cha unansi kaŵirikaŵiri kumakhala pachimake pavuto pamene munthu wozoloŵereka ndi chikondi amakhala wopewa chikondi. Kuphunzira kudzidalira ndi sitepe yoyamba ndipo mukhoza kupindula kudzera mu uphungu ndi chithandizo.
Kukhala womasuka ngati munthu wosakwatiwa komanso kuyang'ana zomwe mukufuna muubwenzi ndikofunikira. Pokhapokha ngati munthuyo amvetsetsa momwe ubale wabwino umawonekera komanso wokondedwa yemwe ali ndi chidwi, adzapitiriza kukhala ndi mantha ndi nkhawa pa chiyanjano.
Kupeza nthawi yophunzira kulankhula ndi kuthetsa malingaliro ndi kopindulitsa kwa anthu ambiri omwe amapewa kukondana. Kuzindikira nthawi yoti mukhale omasuka komanso osatetezeka kwa anthu osankhidwa ndi odalirika m'moyo ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi luso lofunikira kuti muzitha kufotokozera zosowa zanu ndi zomwe mukufuna mukukhala ndi malire abwino komanso otetezeka.
Ngakhale kuti n'kosatheka kuneneratu kupambana kwa ubale, kuphunzira kudalirana, zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana mwa mnzanu wathanzi komanso wotetezeka, komanso momwe mungasonyezere zakukhosi kwanu kumapereka luso ndi chitetezo kwa aliyense amene ali ndi mbiri yokondana. .
Kutsata / Kulephera